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2025-01-25 07:05 pm
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This isn't really a new policy. I've always been Friend's Only.

I've just never had a shiny banner proclaiming it before.

Comment to be added...

Thank you so much [ profile] hermette
You got some MAD SKILLZ!
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2017-06-19 10:34 pm

Dear Fic Corner Scribbler

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2017-02-19 11:24 pm

Chocolate Box Recs!

Lots and lots of recs!

Most of these are super short--which is one of the things I love about Chocolate Box, all those bite-size morsels of yummy. What people do with characterization and language in so very few words will always awe me and make me giddy. These aren't all the ones worth reading (I still have a lot to read, I was just starting to burn out and that's really not fair to the fics I was reading, so I'm taking a break.) But here's what I've read and loved so far.

There's a Story for Everyone in Here )
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2017-01-11 10:26 pm

Fandom Snowflake Challenge Day 10: Let's Talk About Tropes Baby...

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Day 10

In your own space, share your love for a trope, cliché, kink, motif, or theme. Tell us about it, tell us why you love it, give us some examples and recs.

Tropes and Whatnot )

So, can any of ya help a sistah out? Anyone read any good epistolary fics lately? Anyone written any? GIMME GIMME!!
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2017-01-10 10:23 pm

Fandom Snowflake Challenge Day Nine

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DAY 9:

Send feedback to two fannish people — they can be anyone you want: just let someone know you appreciate their work.

I did this yesterday when reveals went up at both [ profile] hoggywartyxmas and [ profile] daily_deviant's Kinky Kristmas, but since I'm also honored enough to have all those mods here as friends, who might read this while scrolling on their much deserved break from responsibility, I want to get all sappy and whatnot. Ready?

Let Me Count the Ways )

I could go on and on about these guys, and so many other people who give so much to fandom, there's just SO MANY, and that's a good thing. All ya'll are amazing! Seriously. Don't ever change.

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2017-01-09 05:44 pm

Fandom Snowflake Challenge Day Seven (and also all my holiday writing shenanigans!)

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Day 7

Create Something

Firstly, to fulfill that requirement in the allotted time of the challenge, here is what I created. This was for [personal profile] dancing_serpent's Day 6 Wishlist. It's Criminal Minds, which is something I love a lot, and yet, have never written for. I actually don't know how much I could really write for the fandom, as last night, getting into this psycho's head was way too much fun and entirely too easy. :((

Seared with Scars (1005 words) by tjs_whatnot
Chapters: 1/1
Fandom: Criminal Minds
Rating: Not Rated
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Characters: Aaron Hotchner, Vincent Perotta
Additional Tags: Angst

Two sides of the same coin...

Secondly, all my holiday fics have now been revealed so I can post them here. Even though I don't usually put this stuff in a public post, fuck it, why not?
Fest Fics )

Now, ONTO [community profile] chocolateboxcomm!!!

And also hopefully filling other wishes for Snowflakers!

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2017-01-07 04:29 pm

Fandom Snowflake Challenge Day Eight

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Day 8

In your own space, make a list of at least 3 things that you like about yourself.

Alright, let's do this motherfucker! )

Now tell me, what's your favorite things about you?
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2017-01-06 09:20 pm

Fandom Snowflake Challenge Day Six

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Day 06

In your own space, create a list of at least three fannish things you'd love to receive, something you've wanted but were afraid to ask for - a fannish wish-list of sorts.

UGH. Okay, yeah, lets do this:

1) To fill many other people's request, I have made a transformative works blanket statement on all my journals and ao3, so for my wish, I'd like to say: Go, Transform My Works. ♥

2) Um... I swear I had things, I did. But, like I am when friends and family ask what I want for Christmas; no matter how many things I have on my list, the minute I'm asked, I blank. :( I'd say graphics (icons, headers, wallpaper) but I don't know that I'm excited enough about anything right now to know what to ask. How sad is that?

3) Stranger Things...things? Recs mostly. Fic, vids, meta...anything. I just watched the entire series over the Thanksgiving holiday and am about to start watching it again and I'd like to have fic to read, art to look at (I've loved all I've seen so far) or vids to watch. I'd also like people to talk to about it (just as soon as all my thoughts aren't OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG WHAT IS HAPPENING!?!?!) And believe me, self-reccing is totally accepted (and encouraged!)

*I know I cheated on that one where I didn't ask for anything. :( Maybe I was asking for inspiration... what are you passionate about? Convince me... ♥
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2017-01-06 10:55 am

Fandom Snowflake Challenge Day Five

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Day 5

In your own space, post recs for at least three fanworks that you did not create.

Okay, this is going to get long and probably take me forever, because I don't make things easy for myself and bookmark hardly ever but here goes.

Firstly, I've been incredibly remiss to gush publicly with the bounty that has been my fest season. I know recs for gift fic are taken with a grain of salt, I mean, how could I not love something written for me specifically, right? But firstly, recs are always subjective and secondly, a fic shouldn't be punished just because it was written for me, yes?

Fics written for me, but you'll enjoy too... probably: )

Non-Gift fic From HP Fests: )

And finally, two random fics from the 1st day of the Snowflake Challenge: )

See? I told you that was going to be ridiculously long. But you know what I always say: Go Big or Go Home. (Actually never said that before in my life.) ♥
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2017-01-05 06:21 am

Dear Chocolate Box Creator,

YAY! It's Chocolate Box time again! I am sooo jazzed about this! I'm going to try and keep this as short as I can, because really, for all of these? I just want MORE story. I mean, I'll give you precise prompts if I think of one, but mostly it will just be a little hint to get you in the right direction. ;)

General, my tastes are simple, yet varied enough that there's really no way that you could disappoint me. For example: I am as pumped for angsty and cracktastic, I love canon compliance and AUs.

Tropes and whatnot that I'm a sucker for:

Obviously (based on what I've requested and who I've requested) I like found families, and teams coming together for a common goal. I like hurt/comfort, epistolary, location as character, secondary characters running the show, experimental story telling style (i.e. poetry, 2nd person POV, drabble sets) GO CRAZY!

Request 1: Agent Carter

Ana Jarvis/Edwin Jarvis
Peggy Carter & Howard Stark
Peggy Carter & Edwin Jarvis
Peggy Carter & Ana Jarvis
Peggy Carter & Ana Jarvis & Edwin Jarvis

Ahhh, this show is so great and kick-ass and I love it, but for this, I sort of want wit and hi-jinks, people who are really good at most things to be really bad (or at the least, in need of help) in others. So maybe Peggy needs Jarvis to teach her to dance and in turn, he wants her to teach him how to do one of the many things Peggy excels at-- and Ana and or Howard watches from the sidelines and offer pointers/criticisms. Or Howard needs a favor and Peggy has some demands of her own. Really anything with any of these characters would be awesome, though I'd really only like romance with Ana and Edwin, maybe something domestic and homey in the midst of chaos, or a bit of backstory about how they fell in love.

Request 2 Doctor Who

Eleventh Doctor/River Song
Amy Pond/Rory Williams & River Song
Amy Pond/Rory Williams
Twelfth Doctor/River Song
Jack Harkness/River Song
River Song & Rory Williams
Amy Pond & River Song
Eleventh Doctor & Amy Pond & Rory Williams
Donna Noble & River Song
Twelfth Doctor & Jack Harkness & Missy
Eleventh Doctor & Tenth Doctor

Mostly I'm in Doctor Who for the 11 (or as I call him Doctor Squishy-Face) ♥ I'd love either a missing scene or pre-canon/post canon... like maybe about Amy and Rory winding up together in NYC where they find a little girl who is lost and alone and remembers very little about herself except that once, she had wanted to be an astronaut. Or more bits of "Pond Life" or a page from River and The Doctor's diary. For the Doctor/River (while I ship the fuck out of 11/River) I also wouldn't mind some 12/River, or maybe she compares and contrasts all the Doctors she knows. The Jack/River is just because two people that sexually charged with vortex manipulators are bound to have hooked up at least once, am I right? And how weird would the shenanigans with 12, Jack and Missy be? I have no idea what I want with that, I just really want it. ;)

Request 3 Hart of Dixie

Zoe Hart/Wade Kinsella
Earl Kinsella & Wade Kinsella
Lavon Hayes & Wade Kinsella
Lavon Hayes/Annabeth Nass
Lavon Hayes & Zoe Hart
Lemon Breeland & Wade Kinsella
Wade Kinsella & George Tucker

Bored one long weekend and trolling along Netflix looking for something new and I took a chance on this show. And at the end of the weekend, I was almost at the end of the show. I'm just SUCH a sucker for this sort of story. The fish-out-of-water stories, the quirky town folk stories. Any missing scene would be good, any of the ones without Zoe in them would be awesome to have some pre-canon. For the romance ones, I love Lavon/Annabeth and was really sad about them not winding up together. They were so cute! I also like Wade/Zoe, but would prefer a story of them getting together in all it's messy glory rather than them being happily ever after together.

Request 4 MASH

I don't even remember what characters and relationships were up for consideration in this fandom, but since I love EVERY character (to various degrees) and would LOVE anything with any relationship, I just put "Any." Seriously, go crazy! Specifically? I love Hawkeye being put in his place and being contrite about it. I like missing scenes as well as post season. This is a great fandom to explore the epistolary style. I LOVED the letters home motif that this show did so well. Maybe once they get home, one of them misses the confessional that a letter sent far off to someone who isn't in their lives compels and starts a penpal relationship? What would they say in a letter that they'd never say in person?

Request 5 Rogue One: A Star Wars Story (2016)

Chirrut Îmwe/Baze Malbus & Bodhi Rook & Cassian Andor & Jyn Erso & K-2SO
Galen Erso & Bodhi Rook
Chirrut Îmwe & Baze Malbus & Jyn Erso
Chirrut Îmwe & any Jedi
Cassian Andor & Rebel soldiers
Cassian Andor & Jyn Erso & K-2SO
Cassian Andor & his parents
Bodhi Rook & Baze Malbus & Cassian Andor & Chirrut Îmwe & Jyn Erso & K-2SO
Jyn Erso & K-2SO
Cassian Andor & K-2SO

As you can tell with this (and many other of my requests), I'm all about the gen right now. Not that there can't be romantic overtones, but just that I want the relationship explored without the goal of sexy-times being in play. For this one, (and SPOILERS if you haven't seen the movie, look away!) I'd like it to take place either in canon (a missing scene, maybe a character study in relation to the other) or pre-canon. I don't really want any of them to miraculous survive. I know, how sad is that? But I'm not ready to tinker with that particular problem right now. What I'd really like from any Cassian based story is backstory. What exactly did he endure? Who did he lose? Backstory for Chirrut and Baze would be ace too!

Request 6 Star Wars Original Trilogy

Leia Organa/Han Solo
Lando Calrissian & Han Solo
Han Solo/Leia Organa & Luke Skywalker

ANYTHING! WRITE ME ANYTHING FOR THESE PEOPLE AND I WILL BE HAPPY! And this one, if you're so inclined, can get as smexy as you want between Leia and Han. Show me some sweet, sweet love...or some snarky, tumultuous love. Or maybe how Han and Leia start a family and make sure Luke is involve in it. Even bits of Ben's inclusion? Sure, go for it! For the Lando and Han, maybe some backstory? A how-they-met story, or one of their dealings with each other? And by all means, feel free to um... fuse those last two fandoms together to your heart's content. Shhhh, I won't tell. ♥

Basically though, have fun. Don't stress about the details. It's all good.

And if you'd like a second opinion about my likes and whatnots, [personal profile] redsnake05 is your go-to. Not only do they know me really well, they also know how to translate my babble into normal-person speak. ;)
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2017-01-04 11:43 am

Fandom Snowflake Challenge Day 4

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Day 04

Talk to someone you haven't ever interacted with before or introduce yourself to someone you've interacted with and friend/follow them.

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2017-01-03 10:29 pm

Fandom Snowflake Challenge Day Three

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Day 03

Set some goals for the coming year.

The great thing about modding at [community profile] snowflake_challenge is that you get to read--and be inspired--by all the great participants. The hard part, is that sometimes you don't have enough time to reflect as much as you'd like on things for yourself. But, that's okay, after the opus that was Day 2's post, I sort of want to go minimalist here. So maybe I'll be back with lists and addendums and whatnot, but for now, I'm taking a page (or the actual literal post of a participant whose goals were just so fuckin' precise and perfect). [personal profile] petra, you are a goddess--as is, of course, Carrie Fisher. ♥

Honor Carrie Fisher by:
- normalizing mental illness and its treatment
- taking life a little less seriously
- destroying a fascist regime, or at least working very hard to contain its damage

For me:
- Write something
- Submit something
- Keep loving my job
- Keep loving my friends
- Keep loving myself
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2017-01-03 01:53 am

Fandom Snowflake Challenge Day Two

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Day 2

In your own space, share a book/song/movie/tv show/fanwork/etc that changed your life. Something that impacted on your consciousness in a way that left its mark on your soul. Leave a comment in this post saying you did it. Include a link to your post if you feel comfortable doing so.

I feel like I've already covered so many things that changed my life. So I went looking to see so I wouldn't repeat myself, and I was right, SO MANY! I just really get excited about things, okay? ♥

Mostly for my own records to keep things slightly organized )

Now on to this year's love!fest ♥

Bob! )

And sorry, I don't know why there is so much space between the text and videos and I don't know how to make it be right. :(
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2017-01-01 12:13 pm

Happy New Year!!


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Day 1

In your own space, post a rec for at least three fanworks that you have created. It can be your favorite fanworks that you've created, or fanworks you feel no one ever saw, or fanworks you say would define you as a creator.

2 Harry Potter and a White Collar )
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2016-11-25 11:13 am

Interhouse Fest Recs so Far...

What have I been doing to get over my post-election funk? Reading of course. I had gone to my comfort-read file (just kidding, I don't have one of those, because that's what smart, well put together people have. All I have are vague recollections of fics that made me happy and other smart, well put together people's rec lists). But then [ profile] interhouse_fest began posting and since I try really hard to participate as much as I can in fests I write for, I started reading.

There are some delightful things over there getting little to no love and so I thought, if people are like me and leery about pairings and stories from unknown writers and are looking for someone to bite the bullet for them first and report back whether it is worth their time, I would take it upon myself to be that person. So here I am, reporting back with the ones I've read so far that I think a lot more people would enjoy. I'm about a week in a half behind, so there are others that I'll have to report back on later (and if you have read anything from there in that time that are good, please let me know, cool?)

The Road to Nowhere (Fred/Pansy) 12.6k, R, War A/U.
A Beautiful Kind of Strange (Ron/Luna) 4.5k, NC-17
Crashing Into Place (George/Luna) 5.8k, R
In the Public Interest (Pansy/Neville) 3.3K, NC-17
Snakes and Ladders (Astoria/Ginny) 4.1k, NC-17
The Strange Case of the Missing Twins, the Black Kneazle, and the Sepia Photograph (Padma and Pavarti and a whole slew of secondary characters) 8k, PG-13

And that's it for now. I'll try to catch up with both this fest (and my Nano) by the end of the holiday weekend. ♥♥
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2016-11-19 11:18 am

All We Need is Love...

Well, maybe not all we need, but I say the world could use a bit more of it. ♥

So here, spend your day like I'm going to: spreading love!

I've gone through and commented on most of the ones of people I know/admire and now I shall wrack my brains on the people not there yet/still fandom active to shower with my adoration.

And because I'm THAT person, here is my thread. And, just because you don't see your name on the list, doesn't mean you aren't there... keep looking... ♥
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2016-10-08 12:28 pm

Yuletide Letter 2016


But, never fear! I am here now and I will give you all the love, encouragement and helpful tidbits to help make this an amazeball Yule Season for us both!


I'm so glad we have at least one tiny fandom in common, that means I already love you and think you have impeccable taste!

So, I guess I bit about my likes/dislikes in general and then I'll wax poetic about my fandom loves and give you some ideas and whatnot, yes? Okay, let's begin:

Things I'm a fan of:


Character studies
Characters dealing with their shit
Relationships that just barely work, or shouldn't but somehow do.
Found families/chosen families
Journeys (both the physical of travel and also spiritual/mental)
A/Us (both canon divergent, what-ifs and completely taking the characters--though retaining what makes them them obvs--out of the canon and dumping them anywhere else (I'll give specific ideas below).
hi-jinks and shenanigans
witty dialogue
epistolary stories or elements
geography or location so rich and real it's another character

Everything on the gen list still applies, but also:
coming out
dealing with new feelings
mixed signals
sexual exploration

Things I'm less a fan of:

PWP-- I don't mind sex, or kinks, but I'd also really like some substance and reasoning coming into play. But if you're here for treats, ALL THE PORNZ!!
Incest/chan/rape fantasy
Extreme kinks-- sexual exploration is one thing, watersports/pony play is quite another. Worried you might cross the line, contact [personal profile] redsnake05 she knows where my line is.
sappy, happy, overly fluffy-- unless you're here for treats, then tell me a cute little happy story about bunnies and kitties if that's your thing. :)
character bashing

And I think that's about it. Now, on to the fandoms!

Sirens (Brian and Voodoo)

Ace myself, I'm always looking for my representation in any show I watch, so imagine how fucking jazzed I was when I met Voodoo and how very sad I was that the show was so short lived. I'd love, love, love to see anything with these two-- or even just one of them if you wanted to do some sort of character study--either more during the show's run that we didn't see, or expounding on what we did see, or, or taking us into the future. Maybe they get back together and how does that work? Can they make each other happy and if not, why not? If they just remain friends, how would that work?

Hart of Dixie (Wade, Lavon and George)

I just discovered this show a few months ago and DEVOURED it! It hits so many of my favorite things. Quirky towns people (though a bit more Gilmore Girls than Northern Exposure) and fish out of water, and also that teen-romance type thing like Dawson's Creek--it is really SOO very much Dawson's Creek for adults (I mean, come on! Zoe/Wade are SOOOOO Joey/Pacey, imorite?!?!)

And while I just put these three boys, don't feel that you can't include anyone else, or that you have to ship them with each other, or really anyone else, though you certainly can. I just really like the idea of hearing more about the town before Zoe came to town and brought us with her. So, feel free to explore more of the Lavon/Lemon relationship, or the George/Lemon or I'd love to hear about some of the shenanigans Wade, George (and Lemon) got into in highschool. (And while she wasn't nominated so feel free to ignore, I am a big, big fan of Annabell so anytime you want to include her in the shenanigans, feel free.) ♥

Really, I just want to live in the world of the show for a bit more to get over the fact that I have no more canon to consume.

Mary Poppins (Bert and Mary)

Now this love has been in my soul for pretty much my whole life and still dominates my thoughts and feelings. Basically, I still want to be Mary Poppins when I grow up.

A few ideas for you:
The Mary was Bert's Nanny Theory

Mary is a Time Lord and Bert was a Companion

Mary Poppins got expelled from Hogwarts

Basically, I am giving you permission to get freaky with this one. ;)

Dawson's Creek Any

This has always been my guilty pleasure as I was WAYYY past the age of its target audience by the time it came out. I just couldn't help it, I loved the language of it and the self-awareness of it. During the run of the show, I shipped Joey/Pacey pretty hard, I loved the relationship between Dawson/Jen in the college years and would have loved to see that played out more. I loved Jack (though I can't remember if he was actually nommed) and pretty much shipped him with everyone. Pacey and Joshua Jackson is my boo. ♥ So, any fun you want to have with any of that, go for it!

In the years that have passed since it's end, I've also toyed with the idea of Pacey/Jen after I wrote a story for Yuletide once. I'm also in love with the way the actors (mainly Joshua and James) reference and pay tribute to their time on the show. (I just mainlined the entire Don't Trust the B in Apartment 23 and it made me love JVB in a way I never did while he was Dawson.) So, if you want to do something with that--not RPF really, but you know in that last episode where there were actors playing their parts? What if Dawson and the gang were just actors? What sort of hi-jinks would they get into off-set.

Or you know, a bakery AU or something. ;) Whatever... I just love these knucleheads. ♥

Northern Exposure (Joel and Marilyn)

Okay, I know I'm really limiting myself by only signing up with these two characters, so truly, write whatever inspires you in this fandom and I will love it. Last year I got this piece of amazing NE/WTNV fusion that not in a million years would I have been creative enough to actually request. So, part of me wants to just leave you a blank slate.

But... I guess I should clarify a bit why I asked for Marilyn and Joel specifically. I just love their relationship soooo much. How puzzled and frazzled she made him, how they cared about each other in a very bizarre and endearing way. Remember that time that Marilyn went to Seattle and Joel was so worried he followed her there? How adorable and unnecessary that was? God I loved that episode.. them just walking down the street doing exactly what she wants to do. ♥ ♥ So, anything that explores that relationship would be amazing.

Wonder Boys Any

I love Terry/James, but what I really, really love is the relationship between Terry and Grady. I'd just love to read more about their takes on the author/editor dynamic, more drug fueled shenanigans. Maybe they go on a road trip? Maybe they have to go and save James again in some way... or maybe he's lost somewhere and they have to piece together clues to sort out his truths and fictions to collect him. I also really love Hannah, so feel free to throw her into the mix if you'd like.

So, those are just a few ideas and suggestions, take what works, dismiss all that doesn't... or all of it really. I trust you. I trust your judgement, I mean, you love what I love, you have to be awesome. *nods*

And again, I apologize that this took so long to get up and finished. :(
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2016-03-03 10:08 am

For all you Freaky Potter Types...

art by [ profile] twilightsorcery

I will be over there later today--or whenever I get through this mountain of things on this never ending To-Do List.
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2016-01-16 02:52 am

Fandom Snowflake Challenge #13-15

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Day 13

In your own space, post a rec for at least three fanworks that you did not create.

Yes! This gives me an opportunity to share my lovely good fortune from Day 2's bounty. See, karma, it's a ~thing~. ♥

Icons, art and a fic rec under here )

Day 14

In your own space, share your love for something fannish: a trope, cliché, kink, motif, theme, format, or fandom.

So many choices. But, let's talk about fanvids.

Vids for ALL THE FANDOMS under here )

Day 15

In your own space, talk about what you're taking away from this challenge. Did you learn something? Did you interact with new people? Or did you try out different fandoms or formats or relationships? What's changed between Day 1 and Day 15 of this challenge?

It's said, that it takes 3 weeks to turn a behavior into a habit, so this was a great start to make a few things habits. The habit to be here and participate in fandom in many different ways, the habit to think about things in new ways, to reach out to new people and the habit to not take things to overly serious all the time. To take time to concentrate on the positive, to tell people that you love them while you still can and to cherish the little things.


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2016-01-14 08:30 pm

Fandom Snowflake Challenge #12

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Day 12

What makes you fannish? And by that we mean, what is it about a tv show/movie/book/band/podcast/etc that takes you from, "Yeah, I like that," to "I need MOAR!!!" Is it a character? A plotline? The pretty? Subtext that’s just screaming to be acknowledged?

For me, it has always been, and always will be, about character. Back in school, character driven fiction was called "Literary Fiction" and that's what I read, what I wrote. It was much later--something about a boy wizard and the magical world he lived in--where I discovered that character driven fiction was also called "fantasy" and "sci-fi." That pretty much all genres had character driven stories, whether they had to build the world around them or not.

But, character is so all-encompassing. There are certain kinds of characters (and group of characters) that do it for me. Broken. Lost. Desperate.

While signing up for the ChocolateBox fest, and writing up all the many, many fandoms I requested (seriously, I was super greedy), I realized what all my fandoms have in common. Found families. I am a OMG!Sucker for people looking for (and finding) family, a place to belong, a place to call home, people to connect with and become important to and for.